Our loved ones who have passed on have a strong desire to communicate with us and let us know that they are alive and well. They don’t want us to grieve and are saddened when they can’t get through to us with their messages. Despite the passage of time since their transition, our loved ones remain attuned to our thoughts and emotions. They come to us when we need them, whether we are feeling troubled, disturbed, or simply asking them to be present. They are always available to communicate with us from the afterlife and reach out to us frequently, particularly in the weeks and months after their passing.
Will My Loved One Come to Me When I Want to Talk with Them?
Why Don’t I Get Communication from My Loved One in the Next Life Now?
It’s important to understand that you do receive communication from your loved ones in the afterlife, but it may not be immediately recognizable or conscious. The reason we feel our loved ones are not engaging in communication with us is that we haven’t learned how to receive their messages. The constant noise and distractions of daily life can make it difficult to recognize subtle messages and signals from the afterlife.
Fortunately, we can learn to communicate with our loved ones through Mind-to-Mind messaging. Techniques such as the Repair & Reattachment Grief Therapy method used by psychotherapists have been successful in connecting clients with their loved ones. The love connection between the person on this side of life and the person in the afterlife is a powerful force that facilitates communication.
There are also free online training programs available, such as the one provided by the Afterlife Research and Education Institute, that teach individuals how to be more receptive to communication from their loved ones in the afterlife. With practice and an open mind, anyone can learn to receive messages from their loved ones and strengthen their connection with them. For more information on these resources, visit www.earthschoolanswers.com/rochelle/ and www.afterlifeinstitute.org/self-guided/.
Why Can’t People Living in the Next Life Just Come to Me and Communicate?
Nearly all of them don’t know how to get messages into our consciousness. They try, but they can’t get through because our Minds are so full of stimuli. We can receive their messages at a subliminal level, but we must learn how to relax our Minds to receive them. The ability of people in the afterlife to communicate with the earth realm is not common. But they do try to communicate.
An interesting experiment to gain insight into how our loved ones in the afterlife receive our thoughts and emotions is to take advantage of research by Rupert Sheldrake and others, which has shown that people can sense being watched or stared at. The next time you’re in a line of people, choose someone standing ahead of you who isn’t engaged in a task and focus on their neck. Imagine tickling them on the neck for a few seconds. Occasionally, they may turn around and look back or even brush their necks, even though they don’t consciously know why. The message comes through to their subconscious mind, but they don’t get the clear message that someone is imagining tickling their necks. Although they respond to the message, it doesn’t rise to the level of their conscious awareness, similar to how our loved ones in the afterlife may receive our thoughts and emotions. This experiment can offer some insight into how subtle messages from our loved ones in the afterlife may be received, even though they can’t communicate with us in the same way as before.
Our loved ones in the afterlife communicate with us through Mind-to-Mind communication, sending thoughts that are focused on our Minds in an effort to convey a message. However, these messages tend to reach us at a subconscious level, and their subtle nature can prevent them from rising to the level of our conscious awareness. It can be challenging to quiet our minds and allow these subtle thought messages to bubble up from our subconscious and become fully conscious, especially with the constant demands and distractions of daily life. Developing mindfulness practices and learning to be more present in the moment can help us become more receptive to these messages and strengthen our connection with our loved ones in the afterlife.
We can learn how to let those subtle messages come into our conscious awareness.
Are My Loved Ones Available to Communicate with Me When I Want to Reach Them?
Your loved ones are always available to communicate. They receive your thoughts and words wherever they are and they respond. You just have to learn to let their responses come into your conscious awareness.
Even though they will have gone on to the life after this life, it’s important for you to realize that your loved one is available to communicate. They may not be around as much in the earth realm now, but wherever they are, your loved ones will come to you when you want to communicate. They are only a thought away. They don’t ignore you or feel anything negative about you. If you’re not getting a connection, it isn’t because they’ve found someone else they like better or they’re miffed at you or anything else that results in a separation. It’s just that connecting is as difficult for them as it is for us. You must keep up the dialogue even if it seems you aren’t getting the response you want or you feel they may not have come to you when you want to communicate. They will come to you and will work at communicating. You just have to find methods that will enable you to receive the communication and respond.
If a medium isn’t able to make the connection, it isn’t because your loved one isn’t available. Good mediums have times when they’re able to connect and times when connections just don’t come through. That has nothing to do with your loved ones. They always come to you when you ask them to. It’s that the medium is tired or mentally preoccupied or incapable.
No one reincarnates and becomes unavailable. Reincarnation is misunderstood. The messages we’re getting consistently from people living in the next stage of life say that after transition the Higher Self incarnates a new individual to learn lessons in Earth School. We are linked to that new individual. That is why we can have past-life regressions and people talk about living other lives with each other.
How Do I Know When They’re with Me?
There are clear indications when a loved one in spirit is with us. We just have to learn to be sensitive to them, not brush them off, and respond to their presence.
Sometimes a memory comes to you out of the blue; perhaps it is something that hasn’t been on your mind for years. That’s their Mind uniting with your Mind. They’re thinking of that memory, or are thinking about you and sending that memory to you. Thank them for it and let the love pour over you.
The sense of presence is a real sense, like seeing or hearing. When you have the sense a loved one is close by, it’s because they are there. At that moment you can stop and say “Hello.” You can tell the person how you’re feeling and how happy you are that they’re with you. Then you can go on, or you can stop and have a brief dialogue. You will receive their responses. The responses are the first thoughts that come into your Mind after you say something. If you are attentive to the sense of presence, you will more easily feel it over time.
The sense of presence can trigger sudden grief. The reason is that the sense brings the person to mind, resulting in the sadness that they are not in the body you are familiar with. One person came to the realization that the periods of spontaneous grief weren’t just random moments of sadness: “I realized I was not missing her; I was FEELING her.”
If you feel a wave of grief, ask if your loved one is nearby. The first thought that comes into your Mind is their response.
You must not worry whether it’s them sending it to you. For one thing, if you are receptive they may send many messages to you, so the odds are good it’s them. When you have the impression they’re with you, even if they’re not they will receive the impression and come to you, either physically or Mind to Mind from wherever they are. You must accept all notions of messages that are warm, loving, and uplifting as communications from them. Dark, negative messages are from our monkey mind, not from them.
Loved ones living in the life after this life send thoughts about what we need to do, watch out for, or take advantage of. They also communicate through bodily sensations, such as our feelings of being touched, cobwebby feelings, tingles, pains, and other such bodily sensations. One medium describes becoming anxious when she is receiving communications. Another feels that males give her sensations on the left side of her body, and females on the right side. Sometimes a guide or a loved one will use the same bodily sensation each time they are present to signal us.
People expect material signs or manifestations. They look for the feathers or coins or numbers that show their loved one is connecting with them. What they must realize is that when the feathers or coins or numbers come to them, it is because their loved one is with them at that moment, inspiring them to look at the floor where the feather is or the sidewalk where the coin is or the license plate that has the numbers. Most of the time they are just directing our attention to what is already there, not creating whatever it is. As a result, when you experience that physical phenomenon, they’re most likely with you. Communicate with them. That’s what they want. The feathers or coins or numbers are not important. They are just the ringing of the phone. We must pick it up and talk. Some suggest we should speak with the newly transitioned aloud as well as telepathically.
At other times people in the life after this life seem to make electrical devices function strangely or butterflies come around or coins appear, or other manifestations. We don’t know how they do that or why they’re assisted in doing that from the other side, but the signs are certainly indications of their presence.
Why Don’t I Have a Sense My Loved One Is Around Me as Much Now?
After passing, people may stay close to earth for a while because they know their loved ones are grieving and they want to do what they can to help them. Later, when things have settled down, they go on with the next stage of their lives, but they are always a thought away and will come to us when we ask them to.
People often describe feeling more of the sense of someone’s presence in the first weeks or months after the transition, but they have less of a sense of their presence after that. The person most likely has gone on to the next level of their spiritual development, leaving the earth realm. But even after they have gone on to the next planes of their lives, they are still available to communicate. They are only a thought away. When we think of our loved one, they receive the thought, wherever they are, send warm thoughts to us, and are available to communicate. If we are having a problem, are depressed, are ill, or are otherwise in distress, they will return to the earth realm to be with us at that time. They also will come to the earth realm just to look in on us. They will do that more often if we have regular times when we communicate with them and we maintain active communication.
Speakers in the life after this life also explain that they endeavor to help their loved ones still in the earth realm by inspiring them and giving them guidance. However, if the loved ones don’t believe the guidance is real or ignore it, those in spirit go on with their life activities without trying to communicate. The communication becomes easier and more frequent as we establish the new relationship by communicating.
Wright, Repair & Reattachment.
Rupert Sheldrake, “The ‘sense of being stared at’ experiments in schools,” Journal of the Society for Psychical Research 62 (1998): 311-323.
Crookall, The Supreme Adventure, 158.
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