What Happens to Suicides in the Afterlife? Is Suicide a Sin?
Many people worry about loved ones who kill themselves. Jesus has told us that God never judges us, so suicide is not a sin. Instead, we judge ourselves during life reviews, and unfortunately suicide is a life action for which the people will likely judge themselves harshly. To understand why killing yourself never is a good idea, it is important to know a few basic things.
The opportunity to enter a life on earth is an immense privilege. There are far more beings who want to come to earth than there are available bodies on earth, so, congratulations! If you are reading these words, you are one of the lucky few. But if you now kill yourself, you short-circuit what has been a carefully-planned process.
We plan our lives with our spirit guides and those who will be important in our lives and their spirit guides, each of us who enters an earth-life writes a pre-birth plan. We cannot say for certain that every bad thing that happens in our lives is planned, but the evidence is strong that we eagerly plan to have stressful things happen so we can grow spiritually. An easy life is like an easy gym session. It doesn’t build much spiritual muscle.
Each of us plans two or three possible exit points into our lives, and suicide never is one of them. As soon as we have gotten whatever spiritual growth can be wrung from this lifetime, our higher consciousness takes the next planned exit, and we happily boogie on outta here.
So, you can see the problem. We petitioned for the chance to come here, we won that pre-birth lottery, and we ourselves planned whatever lesson is making us think now that we would rather die than see it through. If we commit suicide, we land back home and we face our post-death self-judgment phase while we are struggling with the horrible realization that we screwed up very badly.
God doesn’t judge us. No religious figure judges us, and that is bad news since perhaps a loving God would have compassion on us for our mistake in taking our own lives. Each of us is our own afterlife judge, and the evidence is strong that we judge ourselves ruthlessly. We know what we came to earth intending to learn! We planned to have great spiritual growth come from whatever earth-experience caused us to kill ourselves, and we entered this lifetime hungry for that growth. Instead, we threw our chance away. We blew it!
The way that suicides handle their post-death self-judgment seems to vary considerably:
1) Sub-adults forgive themselves easily. Children and people even into their twenties seem not to have trouble forgiving themselves, and they get tremendous loving support.
2) The old and the very ill also forgive themselves easily. There seems to be a sense on their part that they have wrung most of the value out of this lifetime, so hastening their imminent departure was a forgivable decision.
3) People who kill themselves in midlife may be unable to manage self-forgiveness. I don’t think that anyone knows the statistics, but evidence is strong that many who kill themselves in midlife in order to avoid a catastrophe that was planned into this lifetime as a useful life-lesson – divorce, bankruptcy, a career crisis, whatever – will find self-forgiveness to be difficult or impossible.
Our spiritual growth to rise to higher afterlife levels is based on our rate of spiritual maturation. Evidence suggests that nearly everyone who has lived a reasonable life achieves at least the third afterlife level. But if you cannot forgive yourself for things you have done, then your spiritual vibratory rate will gradually slow. You will find it harder to remain on the third level. You will have plentiful love and counseling, but ultimately unless you can forgive yourself you won’t be able to maintain even the second afterlife level. You will end up in what Jesus called the outer darkness, “where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.” As is true of everything else that we once might have regarded as sin, the problem with suicide is not the deed itself, but rather it is the tremendous sense of guilt that suicide can bring. Don’t even think about killing yourself! The problem with killing yourself is that it is impossible for your mind to die.