You may be wondering how you can know when a loved one in the afterlife wants to communicate with you. And how you can get the messages they are sending to you. We know your loved ones are regularly trying to communicate with you. They send messages. You’re just not getting them. In this video, Dr. R. Craig Hogan explains what you must do to receive messages from your loved one in the afterlife.
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We know your loved ones are trying to communicate with you. They haven’t forgotten you. They receive your thoughts from wherever they are and have sometimes come to you on the Earth plane to try to get a message through. They soon give up because you’re not getting the messages. But you can learn to receive their messages.
You will learn how to communicate in a new language. We’re not used to having someone communicate within our minds. We’ve been thinking, remembering, daydreaming, and talking to ourselves since we were children. That’s like a language, and it’s very familiar to us. Now, having someone else come in and start thinking and talking in that space in our minds is really different. It’s like learning a new language. To be able to connect and communicate, we have to learn that new language. That takes time and it takes patience. You can’t learn a new language by flying into a country, stepping off a plane, and spending half an hour with native speakers. You’ll just be bewildered by what you hear. In the same way, you shouldn’t expect to learn this new language of mind-to-mind communication in just one session. Give it time. You’re about to step into a new realm, where you’ll encounter thoughts, memories, and conversations that originate from outside yourself. That’s going to feel like what you’re accustomed to getting as your thinking, remembering, and talking, but it’s not coming from you.
To learn mind-to-mind communication, you must learn how to allow that new communication to come to you, and you must learn to accept it. Be patient. You’ll learn how to communicate.
Your loved ones on the other side will connect with you and communicate in unfoldments. You may be calling them “my imagination,” but there’s no “my” in them. It’s all “them.” This is very important. Those we love on the other side are in charge of the experiences. They decide what to give us and they develop what comes. If we judge, try to change, dismiss as unreal, or otherwise try to manipulate them, we are imposing our intentional mind on the free unfoldment coming from outside of us. That will disrupt their effort to create the images, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and messages in our minds. They then have to start over. It’s really important that we have the confidence that they’re in charge and whatever comes to us is going to turn out to be what we need, even if to us it seems trivial or strange at the time.
Studies have shown that taking control of what is coming shuts down the natural flow. For example, studies of people’s reactions to calming pictures and disturbing pictures show that people’s bodies start to react with calm to calming images or with stress to disturbing images about to be shown as early as seven seconds before the picture is shown, even though the person isn’t aware of it. Their mind receives the message at a subliminal level and the body reacts correctly. When the person is asked to predict whether the picture coming up is calming or disturbing, their guesses are no more correct than would be expected by chance, and the measurement of their bodily reactions shows that their bodies are no longer reacting correctly to the picture that will come up. Their minds lost the message. In other words, when they start to use their intentional mind to guess what type of picture is coming, they shut down the message that normally comes telling the mind subliminally what the picture will be so that the body reacts correctly. The same thing happens when we start to try to control the experience of connecting with a loved one in spirit. We shut down the connection when we take control.
You will learn it isn’t just my imagination. It’s a very normal part of the training in this Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure to go through having to get over the mistaken notion that what’s coming into your mind is “just imagination.” That will happen when you experience having images, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and messages come to you that you just couldn’t originate. The more you experience that, the more confident you’ll become that the messages are coming from them, and the messages will flow more smoothly. Be patient. Learning mind to mind communication is like learning to speak a new language. But you will learn it if you just trust and allow the unfoldment to teach you.
Now, having said that, experiencers occasionally report that they hear clear words spoken in their minds, with the sound of the voice the person in spirit used on the Earth plane. That may happen for you also, but that isn’t the usual way of communicating that those on the other side use.
We have been told by those on the other side that when we see colors sweeping through our consciousness during the experience, the colors are them communicating with us. A psychotherapist had an experiencer in a Repair & Reattachment Grief Therapy session describe what his loved one on the other side told her about colors. This is the experiencer’s account.
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Along with the mind-to-mind communication, you may have a sense of presence. You will just know that person you want to connect with is there. It’s as real as the senses of seeing and hearing. So when you’re getting the mind-to-mind communication, you’ll get this very real sense of their presence. You may not see anything. You won’t “hear” with your ears. But the knowledge that they’re with you is a very reliable validation that you’re connected.
Our loved ones, guides, higher selves, and the Source bring images and scenes to us. They may seem irrelevant at the time, as though they were just passing fantasies. When you allow free unfoldment, you may be given a variety of images and scenes. They come mind to mind, bypassing the eyes, ears, skin, and brain. The result is the same experience in the mind as if the body had been involved, but since the body limitations aren’t there, what comes is fluid, easily changed, and not limited to mundane physical realities. They may seem to jump around or be in fragments. That’s because in the mind our loved ones, guides, higher selves, and the Source can take us from scene to scene easily and immediately to get messages to us, so they take advantage of that unrestricted ability.
They often give participants experiences instead of words. Instead of telling the participant something, they guide them into experiencing it. This is an illustration from a participant’s journal of what happened when she asked for a message:
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Your loved ones, guides, higher selves, or the Source could have said, “Well, you’re trying too hard and thinking too much,” but instead, this participant was given the experience that allowed her to discover the truth that she was trying too hard to make the communication happen; she should just take the elevator and let it convey her to where she wants to go. The teaching often happens in experiences and senses of messages, not in words. The reason is that participants receive the messages mind to mind, not in the vibrations of words.
They are in charge of the images and scenes as well the messages. Allow them to unfold naturally, even if they seem irrelevant.
All of the experiences you will have with your loved one will be positive. They are ALWAYS filled with love and a concern for the person living on the Earth plane. If you ever had an experience or feeling that is negative, such as feeling the person on the other side shunned you or told you something disturbing or anything else negative, that wasn’t from them. That unfoldment has come from fears and negative emotions we all have while on the Earth plane that have taken over your mind. Or they could be from sources other than our loved ones, guides, higher selves, and the Source. Push them aside and say, “That’s not from _____ (your loved one). I put that in the trash.” Think of putting that in a trash can. Then go back to your meditation and communication. That is very unlikely to happen. I just want you to know your communications will ALWAYS be positive, and if something isn’t, then it didn’t come from your loved one. Throw it in the trash.
Although the approach to you will be positive, your loved one may feel negative emotions about what has happened to him or her, or about your separation. Your loved one may be very sad at not being in the physical world with you, or may be frustrated that something is happening in the family, or may even be angry at some injustice. The person has the same personality, loves, fears, intolerances, humor, and all the rest of what makes them an individual that they had on the Earth plane. They are the same person. And so, you might see them come to you crying over something, or frustrated about something. However, their approach to you will be full of love and concern. They have grown out of much of the pettiness they may have felt while in the body. The transition off of the Earth plane is a life-changing event! It just results in changed sentiments, but not because the person is transformed in an instant. It’s just that they’ve experienced something that changes their attitude.
Successful connections require patience and time. You must not go into your first experiences expecting a connection. If you anticipate a connection, that will block the flow of free unfoldment that eventually will result in the connection. You must be willing for the entire session to be receiving impressions, images, and other experiences that don’t seem to have any meaning. You must allow them to come in their own time, in their own way. When you’re getting images or impressions that aren’t meaningful, don’t think “But where is she? I want to connect and she’s not here!” That will shut down the free unfolding and you will actually block your own connection. The meaningless experiences are part of the process.
Your Loved One or Your Guide Has Experiences or a Message to Give You
This is the central point you must remember as you go through the Self-Guided Afterlife Connections procedure. Your loved one or your guide has experiences or a message to give to you. They are waiting for you to relax and give up control so they can give you what they have planned. If you keep control or intend to have something happen or expect to have a connection as you envision it, you block the activity or message they have waiting for you. You can’t make it come. You have to allow it to come. You must give up control, no matter how much you want a connection. They can only give you what they already have planned for you when you let them take control, and you give up making something happen.
Let the Doubt Flow Past.
It’s natural and normal to have occasional doubts about when the unfoldment is from your loved one. Our culture is so spiritually backward that we were reared to doubt the reality of our eternal lives, even though the religions teach about eternal life. We all continue to second guess what we’re getting from someone living on the next plane of life. Just remember that unfoldment isn’t coming from you. If you were trying to create the communication, you’d have to think about the content, then think about the words your loved one would use, then decide if they’re the right ones, then change the wording; it would be like writing a novel. It would take you hours to get a few sentences together.
The unfoldments flow just like a conversation because they are a real conversation. You’ll learn that the messages couldn’t be coming from you. That will become more obvious to you over time. But don’t feel you’re not doing well because of the doubts. They’re natural and normal.
You can have uplifting conversations with your loved ones living in the life after this life. You just have to learn how. We invite you to go through the free, online training in how to relax into having afterlife communications at the link in the description below. Your loved ones want to communicate with you. They’re ringing your phone. Pick it up and talk to them.
