You will receive signs and messages when you can learn to feel the “sense of presence.” The sense of presence is the feeling you get that someone in spirit is near. It is a sense that is as real as the senses of sight and hearing. You may already be experiencing the sense of presence, or you may not have been able to feel it yet. In this video, I explain some of the signs you are likely receiving that your loved one in the afterlife is near to you. It will help you become aware of the sense of presence, so you can connect at that time.
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Your Loved Ones Are Happy and Well on the Next Plane of Life
The most important issue for most people, of course, is whether their loved ones who have passed away are all right. I can tell you with great assurance that they’re fine—in fact, they’re joyous. Everyone who speaks from the afterlife describes their happiness at being free of worries, healthy, and feeling as light as a feather, with a young body with no aches or pains. They’re delighted. The exception is that they grieve when we grieve and feel sad at the change in ability to communicate. Some may be remorseful if they have wronged someone. But they’re working through those feelings and their love is amplified.
As to why it seems they don’t communicate with you often or at all, they are communicating. You’re just not getting the messages. However, after they keep repeatedly trying to get messages through to loved ones on this side of life and they get no response, they go on with their lives in Summerland
To understand what it’s like for them to try to communicate to you, try this little experiment. We know from the research done by Rupert Sheldrake and others that people do have a sense of being stared at. People subtly know when someone is looking at them. The next time you’re in a line of people waiting for something, pick someone close to you, ahead of you in line, who is not preoccupied and not next in line to get to the clerk. They’re just standing idly. Focus on their neck and imagine tickling them on the neck. After a few seconds, some people will turn around and look back, and even brush their necks. They don’t know why, though. The message came through to their minds at a very subtle or subconscious level, but they don’t get the clear message that you’re imagining tickling their necks. They won’t turn around and say, “Why are you imagining tickling my neck?” The message is there, because they respond to it, but it doesn’t rise to the level of their conscious awareness.
That’s what it’s like for your loved one trying to communicate with you. They communicate through thoughts, mind to mind. They focus on your mind and try to get a message through, but the subtle messages don’t rise to the level that we can become conscious of them. We’re just too preoccupied with life to quiet ourselves and let the thought message come up from the subconscious into our conscious mind.
To get their messages, regularly relax for a few minutes, close your eyes, and open your mind. Ask your loved ones questions. The first response is them speaking to you.
Your Loved Ones Come When You Need Them or Want to Talk with Them
Your loved ones are happily, contentedly enjoying their lives in the next stage of eternal life. From wherever they are, they will return to Earth to be with you when you think of them. They don’t observe birthdays and anniversaries because there is no time as we know it in the afterlife. However, when you think of them, and they know the family is coming together, they often stand among you. They’re with you, but you can’t see them. Your thoughts come to them in the afterlife, and they respond by going to be with you on special occasions.
Just know that they are happier than they’ve ever been; they are always within thought range of you; and they know you’re just separated from them for a short time. They’re fine.
If your loved one was an infant or a child, that little one will be with your loved ones who have gone before. They will continue to rear your child in love, and you will be reunited when you transition to the other side. Mediums describe even unborn infants whose growth has been terminated, as early as 14 weeks into the pregnancy, who are growing up on the next plane of life, waiting for their reunion with those who love them. They are available to communicate in the meantime.
Pets also are kept by family members until the owners transition over, at which time, the pet returns to the owner without question.
Your Loved Ones Are Available to Communicate with You
Your loved ones are likely not earthbound, meaning they’re not still on the Earth vibration. Earthbound people are still on the Earth vibration, not using a body, and are walking around, visiting places, staying with people, riding in cars with people, and otherwise on the Earth plane, just not seen. That is often true during the period right after they have transitioned out of the body, and may be true for an extended time if they are worried about someone on the Earth plane who is grieving, have unfinished business they are concerned about finishing, or have a desire to continue enjoying some pastime they enjoyed while using a body and want to now have the experiences vicariously by influencing someone on the Earth plane to engage in them.
It’s important for you to know that your loved one is available to communicate. They may not be around you as much on the Earth plane now, but wherever they are, your loved one will come to you when you want to communicate. They don’t ignore you or feel anything negative about you. If you’re not getting a connection, it isn’t because they’ve found someone else they like better or they’re miffed at you or anything else that results in a separation. It’s just that connecting is as difficult for them as it is for you. You just have to keep up the dialogue. Don’t stop because you aren’t getting the response you want or you feel they may not have come to you when you wanted to communicate. They will come to you and will work at communicating. We just have to work out some methods that will enable you to get the communication and respond.
Will I Hold Them Back by Connecting?
We’ve been asked often whether connecting with our loved ones often will hold them back from going on to the next levels of life. Absolutely not! Here’s why.
They have an eternity to grow. This idea that they have to get on with their progress is a peculiarly modern idea that comes out of our goal-driven, fast-paced lives. There’s no hurry.
Many people on the next plane of life spend the years their loved one is still on this side of life staying close by and taking care of them, giving them guidance. I’m not suggesting everyone’s loved one does that. I’m just saying that staying close by is perfectly normal.
We have records through mediums of people saying that helping people on the Earth plane is part of their spiritual growth. They grow by being compassionate, understanding people’s struggles, and helping.
Our loved ones can go on to the next planes of life and still return to communicate at any time. They’re only a thought away. They get our thoughts and feelings wherever we are, and will come when we want to talk, when we’re disturbed, or when something exciting is happening in our lives. They’ll often look in on us even after they go on to other planes. So they’ll go on with their lives, moving to other planes, but still be available to communicate.
So don’t worry about continuing to connect with them. Speaking from their new planes of life, many people tell us that the greatest burden they carry is that the people on this side of life don’t communicate. They want us to know they’re happy and alive. They want the connection. The problem in our spiritually backward society today is that people on our plane don’t think they can communicate, and worse yet don’t think their loved ones are still alive, and so they ignore them. They soon give up and just go on.
Your loved one is still very much a part of your life. You have a new relationship. Keep communicating.
This is what one experiencer wrote that her loved one said to her during her Self-guided Afterlife Connection:
Tom tells me every Soul wants to connect. Some have no one who validates how they tried to connect. Eventually, those may stop trying. Then those like Tom, who knew I would never not notice, send a sign. The person on this side of life acknowledges the sign, so the person in spirit does something else. Tom says that the more those in spirit do, the more we on the Earth plane see, and they do more because we validated the connection. And so on and so on.
The communication becomes easier and more frequent as we establish the new relationship by communicating.
The Sense of Presence
When a loved one from the afterlife is near, you will sense it. We might say, “I just feel like he’s with me now.” It’s a sense we’re not taught to be aware of today, so people most often miss the signs from their loved ones. We don’t hear people talk about it, so we don’t learn to experience it. If in childhood, we had been sitting at the supper table and heard Dad say, “I sense Grandma is with us right now. Say Hi to Grandma,” we would have learned to be sensitive to the sense. As children, we didn’t hear those words, of course, so now we have to learn to become aware of the sense as adults. The sense or presence has always been there, but we may not recognize it. Now, you just have to realize what it feels like, so when you feel the sense of presence, you’ll notice it and respond to the person in spirit.
One person came to the realization that the periods of spontaneous grief weren’t just random moments of sadness: “I realized I was not missing her; I was FEELING her.” The sense of presence may result in moments of grief because of the sudden memories. These should be moments of joy because they’re filled with love and presence. Those moments of spontaneous grief you feel likely are from your sense of presence you don’t realize. In those moments, instead of grieving, enjoy the presence, warmth, and love. It’s the signal your loved one has come close by.
How You Can Learn to Interpret the Signs and Messages
You can begin to interpret the signs and messages by noticing a distinct feeling you get. You will know you have the sense of presence when it suddenly occurs to you that the person on the next plane of life is there. That realization is the sense of presence, and it’s very accurate.
It will come to you when you’re not intending it to come. It will be a surprise. If you chance upon a photograph of the person and think of them, that isn’t a surprise. If you see a number that matches their birth date over and over, that isn’t the time I want you to focus on now. The feeling was stimulated by the photograph or by the numbers. The person was likely focusing on you to have you look at the photograph or license plate because the numbers were there.
Why You Receive Signs and Messages When You’re Relaxed
This is why. Your subconscious won’t fool you. It can’t lie. What comes up from your subconscious is coming from another source. If you aren’t thinking about the person or pet in spirit and you’re interrupted in what you’re doing by a sudden thought that the person or pet is nearby, then that is the sense of presence. And you can rely on the fact that the person is there. Your subconscious is registering the presence as a sense, just as you register the sight of a sunset when you look at it. The sense of presence is a real sense.
How You Can Know Your Loved One Is Giving You Signs and Messages
The sense of presence may quickly turn into grief for you. You may not have realized it in the past, but when you suddenly feel deep grief, it very possibly is because you’re having the sense of presence, and that turns into a desire to have the person with you, and that results in grief because you believe they can’t be with you. But they are with you at that moment. You just have to learn that when you get the sense of presence to respond to it knowing the person is there rather than missing what it is and having it turn into deep grief.
Some people have physical senses, such as tingling on any part of the body, “buzzes,” touches, or a feeling of warmth or cold. Your signals will be unique to you. They are all accompanied by a sudden sense that the person is near.
After you’ve watched this video, sit quietly for a moment and ask the person or pet in spirit to cooperate with you in this effort to recognize the sense of presence. Ask them to come to you when you least expect it. Ask them to give you a signal on your body if they are able to.
Then go about your daily routine for a week. See when the person or pet comes near and you feel the sense of presence. If it occurs to you that you haven’t had a sense of presence for a few days, that thought is not a sense of presence. Go on with your business. It could be that you’re anticipating and expecting too much. They may be waiting for you to calm down and forget about it.
What to Do When a Loved One Is Giving You Signs and Messages
When you get a sense of presence, relax for a moment and speak to the person or pet. Let them know you got the sense. They need to know that what they’re doing is coming through to you. Your sense of presence may turn into grief before you can realize you’re sensing the person is near. If so, the grief is part of your signal that the person has come to you.
Be aware of body sensations. It could be a cold or warm sensation on your lips, a kiss, or on your shoulders, a hug, or on your thigh, as they sit close to you, or tingling on your scalp, a classic indication of the presence of spirit, or any other physical sensation. Let them know you feel it. But you may get no physical sensations, only the sense of presence.
Most important! Don’t judge! Don’t fret over whether “it’s really them.” This is an ability that takes time and patience. In the first weeks or months of doing this, accept EVERYTHING as them. You’ll be right most or all of the time, and eventually as you relax, you’ll drop off any false alarms. You’ll eventually settle into a familiar feeling in your mind and your body, that you’ll know is them. You’ll receive validations, and later when you’re having a session in which you go to the place of love and meet them, they’ll tell you what they were doing.
Be patient! You can speak to your loved ones living in the afterlife, any time, any place. You just have to calm yourself down, talk to them, and accept the first response that comes into your head. It’s them. Your loved ones are calling you. Answer the call.
