Afterlife and Sex: Exploring the Possibilities
According to spiritual teachings, homosexuality should not be judged or valued more or less than any other physical or spiritual phase. If a soul was homosexual during their life on Earth, their sexual orientation will remain the same in the afterlife. At the soul level, the energy and commitment of all couples, regardless of sexual orientation, are equally respected and valued.
I asked one of my guides if it was a “thought-world” we were in, though the ground felt quite substantial to my feet; and he said, “It is more real and permanent than the one you have left.” I bent down and poked my finger in the soil and found it left a hole, and the soil stuck under my nail. … We went for a walk through beautiful woods and fields; the turf was springy, the air soft and clear, and soft sunshine over everything. We then returned to the house and explored the grounds. There was a beautiful fountain with sparkling water in it. I made a cup of my hands and drank a little, but did not need it, and asked my companion what would happen if I drink too much. “You will not drink too much, that would be foolish; and if you were foolish you would not be here, as each man earns his environment by his conduct. By the working of the natural law, you gravitate to the place for which you are suited; what is within you draws you automatically.” I bathed in a glorious lake the water of which was slightly scented. It ran off my body as I stepped out, almost as if it were running off marble or alabaster.
As a result, we can have any of the pleasures we enjoyed on earth in the life after this life. People describe eating their favorite foods, drinking wine or other beverages, and even smoking if they love a pipe or a cigar. The wine does not affect the body, and smoking doesn’t harm the person or pollute the atmosphere. The experience of drinking and smoking are exactly the same, but the effects are only what is good for the person and the world there.
In the same way, if people want to have sex, they are able to do so. Everything about the approach to sex and the act, with all its pleasure, are the same.
What Residents of the Life After This Life Answer to the Question “Is There Sex in the Afterlife?”
We have been assured by the people now living in the afterlife that if we want to enjoy the pleasures of sex there, we are able to do so. The psychical researcher Frederick Myers, speaking after his death through medium Geraldine Cummins, described sexual activity in the life after this life. Myers describes a man who lived for sex in his earthly life. After his transition, he found he was able to indulge in his desires. This is a summary:
As a person enters the Kingdom of the Mind after death, their mental perceptions become sharper and their earthly desires intensify, with their mental power becoming more significant. They can summon those who gratify their over-developed earthly desires and others of their kind are attracted to them, leading to a temporary existence in a sex paradise. However, these beings still yearn for gross sensations rather than the finer aspects of sexual love, such as perfect companionship without gratification of the grosser feelings. They obtain these sensations in abundance, leading to a terrible satiety and eventually disgust. It becomes extremely difficult for them to escape those who share these pleasures with them.
M. Peebles, considered a father of the Spiritualist movement, speaking from spirit after his death, describes the same sexual activity and full pleasures in the life after this life.
Men and women, continuing as they do their individuality, sex necessarily exists in the world of spirits, but in heaven there are no perversions of these functions.
There is no discrimination according to a person’s sentiments about their gender identity or sexual orientation. The person carries on with the attitudes and interests they had on earth. These are not assigned to a gender or sexual orientation.
Matthew Ward, speaking from spirit to his mother through her mediumship, explains in this summary:
According to spiritual teachings, homosexuality is a natural stage of the soul’s evolution, and it is not to be judged or valued more than any other physical or spiritual stage. If a soul’s orientation was homosexual during their earth life, it will remain the same in the afterlife. The energy and commitment of all couples, whether heterosexual or homosexual, are equally respected and valued at the soul level.
What Happens in Heaven if Someone Was Married Twice?
Consistently, those in the life after this life tell spouses still in Earth School to have a full life, including feeling free to have another partner. There is no possessiveness, jealousy, or covetousness in spirit.
When two or more partners with one spouse come into the life after this life, they will choose to live with each other or not, without concerns about who is whose mate. The feeling of possessiveness is created on the earth realm only. Concerns about whether I can spend eternity with my soul mate are only held by people still on the earth realm. Those issues resolve themselves in the next realm of life.
Heagerty, The Hereafter, 94 (citing Kelway-Bamber, Claude’s Book).
Betty, The Afterlife Unveiled, 30 (citing Geraldine Cummins, Swan on a Black Sea, Routledge and Kegan Paul, London, 1965).
Peebles, Immortality and Our Employments Hereafter, 151.
Ward, Matthew, Tell Me about Heaven, 61.